Marriage

This is how I see marriage as far as scripture is concerned and why I think there are so many divorces.

21 And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam, and he slept; and He took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh in its place. 22 Then the rib which the LORD God had taken from man He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man.
23 And Adam said:
“This is now bone of my bones
And flesh of my flesh;
She shall be called Woman,
Because she was taken out of Man.”
24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
25 And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.

Interesting thing in the NIV v 24 says 'joined' the KJV has 'cleave'. Cleave can mean to tear or pierce. Interesting because, that tearing (in my mind) is a blood covenant between man and wife to remain faithful to each other for life.

Now the rib protects the vital organs of the body, heart and lungs. The wife needs to be more than a worker side-by-side with her husband, she needs to protect her husband. His emotions, heart, protect against outside influences that would harm the family, and so on... He needs to protect his rib by covering up like a boxer or football player. We don't want the rib broken!! He needs to make sure that she feels protected, consistent income to provide for the family, not leering at other women, answering questions without making her feel like you’re hiding something. She needs to believe that she comes before football, golf, the boys, etc.

They are naked before each other really is how we're suppose to be. Totally transparent with each other.

10 The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy. I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly.
11 “I am the good shepherd. The good shepherd gives His life for the sheep. 12 But a hireling, he who is not the shepherd, one who does not own the sheep, sees the wolf coming and leaves the sheep and flees; and the wolf catches the sheep and scatters them. 13 The hireling flees because he is a hireling and does not care about the sheep.

I know that the context of this is used with pastors being in charge of their own church, but what if husbands use these verses for taking care of their OWN families?? The word ‘life’ in v. 11 means all emotion, intellect, entire character, knowledge, everything thing that is in the husband, he to put into his family. When he does not, he is just like the hireling, selfish and not caring for his family. Football or golf is more important.

I think that if both men and women would put the needs/desires of their own spose before their own needs than there would be less divorces. We end up not trusting each other, because we don't take the time to think or take care of each other as was the custom when we were dating.